Our Favorite Child Sleep Books for DIY Parents

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It’s a little more complicated than a picture book, but child sleep books can help you sleep train on your own.

If your sink’s garbage disposal breaks- do you call a plumber or type “broken disposal” into YouTube? If you’re a DIY parent, you probably liked the YouTube option. So, when your child isn’t sleeping, we’re guessing you take a similar approach- you maybe even found this article Googling “child sleep books”. We have good news for you! You can absolutely help your child sleep better on your own. As sleep consultants, we are here when you’ve tried as much, or as little, as you want and need more help. Some people love having a guide and human resource, others don’t need that. 

Most of the information you need to sleep train is online or in a book. But as you probably already know, there’s just so much information out there. And one approach can be SO DIFFERENT from the next. It’s especially tough to sort through it all when you’re totally exhausted.

There are hundreds of child sleep books. I have a bookcase that’s full of them. While most sleep books will help you in a safe and science-backed way, some are better than others! Here are our favorites.

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Reflux & Your Baby

Reflux can cause baby sleep challenges but not all baby sleep challenges are due to reflux. When it comes to reflux, there can be a bit of confusion regarding symptoms, causes and treatment. Let’s get the facts straight!

What is reflux?

There are two types of reflux. There’s GER or Gastroesophageal Reflux, also known as just reflux and then, there’s GERD or Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease. 

Reflux can start as early as a few weeks of age but, usually, starts between two and four months. This is generally the time that infants start consuming larger amounts of breastmilk or formula.

GER is quite common. With GER your baby’s milk & other stomach contents back up into the esophagus. Sometimes, you might see it come out through the mouth or nose. GER starts to ease up at six months and usually resolves by nine to 12 months. GER diminishes at this time for a few reasons: 1) the muscle between the esophagus and stomach (the esophageal sphincter) tightens up; 2) most babies start sitting up and 3) most babies begin eating solid foods. All of these factors make it harder for baby’s food to work against gravity to come back up.

While GER is common, GERD is not so much. It is similar to GER in the fact that it causes baby’s food to come back up. The difference is that GERD results in complications. GERD causes inflammation of the esophagus and/or oropharynx. If GERD is not managed , it can lead to more serious complications such as airway problems (wheezing, gagging or difficulty breathing), poor feeding and inadequate weight gain.

Due to the acidity of stomach contents, both GER and GERD can cause discomfort.

How do you know if your baby has GER?

Common symptoms of GER include the following:

  • Spitting up or vomiting after feedings
  • Fussiness, irritability
  • Back arching, head thrusting
  • Difficulty self-soothing and falling asleep

Some babies have “silent reflux”.  With silent reflux, a baby won’t necessarily spit up or vomit but this type of reflux can result in inflammation of the esophagus and an uncomfortable baby.

If you notice these symptoms, check with your pediatrician. Your pediatrician will also be able to figure out if your baby has reflux or an allergy to milk or formula, which is another possibility with the same symptoms.

Many parents get concerned if they see their baby spitting up regularly. But, that’s normal! If they aren’t bothered by it, your little one is probably just a “happy spitter”!

How can you help your baby’s discomfort?

  • Feed your baby smaller amounts more often.
  • Burp you baby frequently while feeding.
  • Hold baby upright for 15 – 30 minutes after every feeding.
  • If your baby is bottle feeding, make sure that the size of the bottle’s nipple hole is appropriate for your baby.
    • If the hole is too small, your baby will swallow too much air.
    • If the hole is too large, your baby can take in too much fluid.

Could reflux be the reason your baby isn’t sleeping well?

If your baby falls asleep while feeding, rocking, swinging or bouncing, and wakes up regularly, those wake-ups are likely due to a sleep association. If you’re putting baby down calm, but still awake, an occasional wake up might be due to reflux.

While many parents used to think wedges or inclined sleepers helped babies with reflux, wedges and inclined sleepers are not safe. The American Academy of Pediatrics does not recommend inclined sleepers for reflux. The use of these products has resulted in death.

Can medication or diet help?

“The good news about reflux”, says Dr. Tim Marsho from Tosa Pediatrics, “is that it almost always gets better without any intervention at all.”

If you do need to make changes, your pediatrician can guide you.

With all the different formula options out there, they might recommend trying a different option. If you’re nursing, your doctor may suggest tracking your diet and limiting anything that seems problematic.

According to Dr. Marsho, reflux medication is used much less frequently than years ago. “There is growing evidence that medication does not help as much as we once thought it did. In fact, there are safety concerns with long-term use of medications. If we have to resort to medication, it’s only for a very short period of time.”

While reflux can be a nuisance for babies and very stressful for parents, it is normal. Dr. Marsho reassures parents that “it is not a medical problem”. In most cases, it resolves by nine to 12 months. You and your pediatrician will figure out the best way to address this temporary nuisance. If your baby’s intake is inadequate, weight gain is insufficient or there are compromising respiratory issues, your pediatrician may recommend further diagnostic testing. Fortunately, this is a much less common scenario. 

Sleep Training Methods Decoded

It’s 3 a.m. You’re awake. Again. Googling “sleep training methods.” Google spits back thousands of pages with dozens of methods with all kinds of crazy names that really don’t seem to make much sense. Maybe because it’s 3 a.m. Or maybe it’s the crying-is-best, crying-is-awful, somewhere-in-the-middle conflict. Plus, your co-worker, friend from high school and cousin’s wife have probably also said, “We did this. It worked for us. Try it. We know it will work for you, too!” It’s easy to get overwhelmed with information. Most parents are! How can every online sleep expert claim to have the perfect solution? How do you know what will help and what won’t?

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Everything You Need to Know About Teething

Everything Gets Blamed on Teething!

Teething gets a bad rap! Teething takes the blame for just about everything, including disrupted sleep. A lot of parents say their child has been teething FOREVER. And, many parents feel that teething is surely the reason their little one isn’t sleeping well. We’ve broken down just about everything you need to know about teething- including separating teething facts from teething fiction.

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Maternity Leave is Ending & Baby Doesn’t Sleep Through the Night- HELP!

Maternity Leave is Ending & Baby Doesn’t Sleep Through the Night- HELP!

After ten beautiful weeks of snuggling your sweet baby, sometimes at all hours of the night, suddenly the countdown to going back to work begins! As maternity leave is ending, baby may not be sleeping. And you might be wondering how you’re going to function at work totally sleep deprived.

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It May Not be The Right Time to Sleep Train… Yet

So, you’ve decided you and your baby are ready for sleep training! You may feel like the right time to sleep train is ASAP – before the sleepless nights drive you even crazier…

GREAT! That’s what we’re here for. But, we want to make sure when you do the work to sleep train, it sticks. Timing is everything. Sometimes finding the right time to sleep train, even if it means more wakeful nights, will allow the consistency it takes to be successful. 

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